Sunday, January 26, 2025
Formative Assessment - Part 1 - A Story on Why it Matters
Sunday, January 19, 2025
Credibility First - Part 2 - Take Your Work Seriously
Imagine this scenario.
You go to a gym and hire a personal trainer, excited to meet your fitness goals and willing to pay for it. When you arrive, the trainer:
- gives you snacks.
- chats with you about movies and music for 10 minutes.
- jokes with you throughout the session.
- asks you about your hobbies.
- About halfway into the session, she hands you a relatively small weight and asks you to do bicep curls but doesn't show you how to do it properly.
- You do a few with very poor form because you don't know the right way to do it. The poor form is okay with her because "the point is that you do it, not how you do it."
- She praises you for your effort and says, "Look how strong you are."
When you leave that session, you may like your new trainer on a personal level, but you will leave feeling that your time and money has been wasted. You won't be sore the next day, indicating that you didn't challenge any muscles. You won't know any more about fitness when you leave than you did when you entered. And, I'm going to guess that, while you may like your new trainer, you won't respect her work.
You won't achieve your goals, and you won't return to this gym.
Yet, there are people who think this is what classroom teachers should do. Give snacks, make it fun, and build relationships first. And the result with students is the same as it was in the above scenario. They like the fun and relationship-y teacher, but they don't achieve their goals, and they don't respect the teacher's work.
As a teacher of 25 years, I do understand that relationships matter, but I also understand that they cannot come first. In fact, adolescents find it kind of creepy when you try to establish a relationship too early. They can sense a scam a mile away, so they know if you are forming a relationship in a manipulative way. After one first day of school, my nephew (who was then in middle school) said, "She's weird. She smiled way too much." For him, her relationships first approach came off as false.
So, please allow me to propose a different model - credibility first. If you give students confidence that you know what you are doing and will help them achieve, they are more likely to be open to the teacher-student relationship you hope to establish.
Let's revisit the gym. You show up for your personal training session and you:
- notice the trainer has her certifications posted on the wall. This helps you feel confident that she is trained.
- see that she has weights already laid out in a circuit. You know your time won't be wasted and she isn't depending on your to tell her what you should do.
- hear explanations of proper form, explanations of what you should feel as you lift, and feedback on what you are doing in an encouraging and jovial way. This helps you feel confident you could do it later on your own.
- feel challenged throughout the session even though she has a lighthearted manner. You know she is getting the best out of you, and you'll be the good kind of sore tomorrow.
- have a nice chat after the session. You like that she wants to get to know you a little and may feel inclined to share a little more after next week's session.
Let me divert to yet another context. I have been attending a liturgical church for about a year. For those who don't know, liturgical churches involve a lot of scripted time that is repeated regularly. Every week, we say the creed and the Lords' prayer. Every week, we sing the doxology. There is some call and response (e.g. Officiant: "This is the Word of the Lord" Congregation: "Thanks be to God.")
- Some weeks, it may be "Creator of heaven and earth, all that is, seen and unseen" that sticks with me.
- Other Sundays, it might be the fact that Jesus "suffered under Pontius Pilate" that my mind dwells on.
- Replying to an officiant's "Peace be with you" with "and also with you" encourages empathy throughout my week.
- After communion, we say a post communion prayer. It includes the line, "And now, send us out to do the work You have given us to do." Because we say it so often, I look forward to that line and think about it throughout the week.
- I started the first day by telling students why I went into education, what degree I had (diploma posted on the wall next to my teaching certificate), and my years of experience. I said, "I'm not bragging; I just want you to know you are in good hands.")
- I gave them an outline of the year, so they knew I had a plan from the start.
- I assigned seats in rows. I know that is a controversial one, and I'm not saying you have to do it. For me, it communicated from the start that there was someone in charge and that I was the person to whom they should pay attention.
- I promised that, while not everything would be fun, everything would be worthwhile. I made it fun where I could, of course, and I had an amiable classroom demeanor, but I made it clear that fun wasn't the goal; learning was.
- We established some procedures and routines that I assured them would make things run more smoothly.
- I meant what I said. There were never false promises or empty threats.
- I explained my reasons for what I was doing whenever possible.
- I laughed at myself when I made mistakes. Taking your work seriously doesn't have to mean taking yourself too seriously.
- When I screwed up, I did everything I could to make it right for my kids.
- If I got through all of the planned things with a few minutes left, it was only then that I chatted with them about hobbies or pets. I also used lunch duty, morning door duty, and after school interactions for those kinds of conversations. I attended sporting events and concerts and plays to show that I cared about their extracurricular interests.
Monday, January 13, 2025
Credibility First - Part 1 - Why it Matters
Warning: This post ended up a little angrier in tone than I intended. So let me start with this. I know that those who believe in "Relationships First" are well intended and loving. This post is meant to address the outcome of the belief, not the heart that causes you to believe it. Second, I had great relationships with thousands of students. I'm not saying that they don't matter. I'm making the case for why they are not first and cannot be built in isolation from doing your job of content teaching. With that out of the way, my rant:
Stay part of EduTwitter for longer than a few minutes, particularly at the start of a new semester, and you will eventually find the "relationships first" people.
- Kids bouncing off the walls? The answer certainly isn't to implement your school's discipline policy. Clearly, you didn't spend proper time building relationships.
- Student playing on their phone rather than paying attention? It isn't because billions of dollars have been spent making their phones addictive. It's because you would be more engaging for students if you took less time teaching at the beginning of the semester and more time building realationships.
- A student isn't making a good grade. That's obviously not from lack of study time or ineffective study techniques (or even improper teaching techniques). They aren't learning because you didn't spend the first two weeks of the semester building relationships and "kids only learn from people they like."
There's never any practical advice about how to build a relationship or evidence offered for the notion that they can't learn from you if they don't like you (despite centuries of experience to the contrary). They sell the idea that relationships are the golden key that unlocks all doors, and you should spend all of your class time doing that before you do anything else. I actually read a tweet suggesting that you should teach no content for the first two weeks and spend all of that time on relationships.
This leads to weeks of time spent on games. Icebreakers, getting to know you activities, team building exercises, and lots of chatting - all in the assumption that the time spent doing this is an investment that will pay off later because they will learn better and behave better once they "know how much you care." When you visit their classrooms later in the year, it turns out that it just isn't true. There is a lot of relationshipping going on, but there is little learning and lots of poor behavior. There was a teacher across the hall from me years ago that playing hackysack with his students for 20 minutes 3-4 days a week well into the year. It was so loud that I had a hard time teaching. I asked him one day when he taught his content, and he said, "I usually get in 15 minutes, but I want to make sure they know I love them."
I'll talk next week about what I think the right way is, but I wanted to set up the problem with this approach first. The problem is that it does not actually communicate that you love them; it communicates that you don't value their time or learning. I know because:
- They come to my room and talk smack about you behind your back, using phrases like "thinks he's cool" and "tries too hard to be like us."
- They tell me about their lack of appreciation for you as a teacher and the non-academic atmosphere you have created because they call your class "a waste of time."
- If I need a student to make up a test, yours is the class they know it's okay to leave. They say, "Yeah, we never learn anything in there. We can do whatever we want."
Another problem: Substitute teachers don't have relationships with the students in front of them, and you have sent the message to your students that they don't have to behave properly with anyone they haven't bonded with.
The biggest problem. You have students who genuinely want to learn, and you spend a lot of time not teaching them. There are nerds like me, but there are also kids from low income backgrounds who know that education is their only way up. The students who can afford tutors usually end up okay because they pay someone to do the teaching you aren't doing while you build relationships, but the ones who can't afford that are left to fend for themselves. And the relationship you have with them does nothing but widen the opportunity gap.
I know your intent is loving when you say "Relationships First," but in reality, it just isn't helpful. For kids, it comes off a little creepy when they don't know you at all, and you are digging into their personal lives on day 1 of the school year. Next week, I'm going to suggest an alternative.
Credibility First
Establishing your credibility will give kids a reason to want a relationship with you, help them know you value their time and take your job seriously, and ultimately result in better behavior and more learning. I'll give you practical examples of how to build credibility from day 1. See you next week.
Sunday, January 5, 2025
Learning From Defeat
- We love the Peanuts characters and their stories because we can all identify with failure.
- Current children's media is just the opposite. We try to make kids believe they will always be victorious with enough trying.
- Life is hard (but there are joyful times in it).
- Some people are more talented than you are at some things (which is okay because you are more talented than they are something else).
- You will have bad hair days (and sometimes they are on school picture day).
- You will fail a test (which is why your grade is an average and not based on only one thing).
- Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, the other team wins (or the other guy gets the job you want or the man you love loves someone else or you don't get into your first choice college).
- You learn more from failure than you do from success.
- Character is built from learning to be gracious when you win AND when you lose.
- Your life will take a lot of turns that you cannot foresee in middle school.
- It is only in exceedingly rare cases that failure results in death. (Most of the time, you just feel sad for a few days while you figure out where to go from here.)
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